Real quick, if you got sticker tier at BAM, you must cut out the shapes. I forgot to tell a few of you.
Secondly, EVERYONE MUST READ THIS. EVERYONE. <—— (everyone includes you.)
EVERYONE MUST READ THIS SERIOUSLY.
You can’t just fucking touch people.
Please don’t just fucking touch people.
I have had some complaints in the past from a very small number of attendees, but this time, it was not good at all. I realize some of you are new to this group, but some of you are not, and we’ve had this chat before, so let’s take a refresher course!
What counts as unsolicited physical contact?
- Anything you do to give physical sensation to someone without explicit verbal OR physical permission to do so. Remember the movie Hitch? You go 90% of the way, let them come the other 10%. Why? CONSENT.
- NO glomping unless you are like HELLA tight and you know their comfort levels (to illustrate the severeness of a glomp, I’m pretty sure only Steff could do this to me and I wouldn’t feel confused and a little violated.)
- NO hugs unless they make first contact.
- NO kissing. I mean, unless you’re dating someone or have been best friends forever, let’s just not do this period without a verbal agreement. And even then, don’t make your SO or bestie uncomfortable if they don’t want to do it.
- NO petting, stroking, or back massages. If you’d like to do a cute head-pat, hold your hand out. If you’d like to give a massage, ask.
- NO blowing on people.
- NO grabbing, pushing, or physical redirecting of people. I saw some of this during the pinata game. It’s ok if they’ve agreed to be spun around, but remember these people are BLIND and can not see who is touching them. If you’re saving them from injury, there is an exception, but please don’t do more than is absolutely necessary.
- NO grinding up on strangers to dance, holy crap. Unless you are both clearly dancing this way at each other, (which is probably not what someone’s parents want to see happening at a party, keep in mind,) let’s eliminate this altogether. Just holy crap. Let’s keep the dancing to “church function” unless we’re at a con or something.
NOT ONLY THAT!!
- PLEASE be attentive of the other person while you are flirting, even jokingly. Some people can be made incredibly uncomfortable by this. If someone is standoffish, quiet, or not matching wits with you, or has a dryness to their tone, PAY ATTENTION.
- NO pressuring people if they decline contact. If they say no, IT MEANS NO. If they don’t say YES or initiate the contact, IT MEANS NO. If they say yes, and they look like you asked them if you can have their left foot for your body parts collection, YOU SHOULD PROBABLY TAKE IT AS A NO.
- NO pressuring people for ANY reason. It takes a lot of courage to say no. You have no right to make them feel guilty over their choices.
Let’s go over the things on this list that I experienced, unsolicited:
- ALL OF THEM, except being blown on.
Holy shit. Imagine me, being the head of this group, and the oldest, and I am being groped, grabbed, petted, kissed, asked to touch your boob, asked to touch your butt, grinded up on, and furthermore, when I say no, YOU IGNORE THAT NO. What do you imagine I think you are doing to the younger and more timid members?
This is unacceptable. You guys are my family. Don’t make me kick you out for this shit. Please.
EVERYONE PLEASE. PAY ATTENTION. Especially if you’re Asian.
On January 30th, 2014, California Senate just passed SCA-5, a legislation that would repeal portions of California Proposition 209.
In condensed words, this bill allows schools to DISCRIMINATE AGAINST ASIANS.
To understand SCA 5, we have to remember what Prop. 209 is. In November 1996, Proposition 209 (also known as the California Civil Rights Initiative) amended the state constitution to prohibit state government institutions from discriminating against, or granting preferential treatment to, any individual or group on the basis of race, sex, color, ethnicity, or national origin in the operation of public employment , public education, or public contracting. In the 18 years that Prop 209 has been in effect, California has become the most diversified state in the US.
State Senator Ed Hernandez, the one who introduced this bill, claims that due to Prop 209, Non-Asians have a harder time being admitted into state universities.
This bill will ALLOW THE STATE to use RACE, SEX, COLOR, ETHNICITY, OR NATIONAL ORIGIN as a consideration for accepting students or hiring employees. SCA-5 is out to punish Asian-Americans simply because we set the bar too high for getting into schools with high exam scores.
Asian-Americans often need test scores hundreds of points higher than applicants from other ethnic groups to have an equal chance of admission.
This bill goes against EQUAL PROTECTION, our 14th Amendment, as American citizens!
IF WE ALLOW THIS BILL TO PASS. WE HAVE STUNTED GENERATIONS FROM GROWING AND EXPANDING THEIR MINDS, THEIR HORIZONS OF UNDERSTANDING.
IF WE ALLOW THIS BULLSHIT BILL TO PASS, WHO’S NEXT UNTIL THE LAST RACE WHOM IS DEEMED “WORTHY” OF EDUCATION IS LEFT STANDING?!
Xudong Sun, president of American Anhui Association of Scholars and Students, told Xinhua that this legislation is racial and is a serious discrimination against Asian Americans.
He said right now at the University of California and state universities, Asian students account for 36 percent, but Bill SCA-5 would restrict Asians to 13 percent.
He said under-represented minority groups, like African Americans and Hispanics need protection, but such protection should not be made at the expense of Asian Americans.
Here is the Whitehouse.gov petition: WE NEED 100,000 SIGNATURES BY MARCH 18TH. THAT’S 10 DAYS FROM NOW.
Here is the Change.org petition.
PLEASE SIGN THESE TWO TO GET THIS BILL TORN TO SHREDS! and PLEASE. SPREAD THE WORD.
Isn’t it interesting how often the response to criticisms such as the armor bingo card boil down to “but I have to keep using these tired offensive cliches because creativity”? Are they even listening to themselves? Why not take it as a challenge? “How can I create beautiful and original character designs without falling back on tropes that thousands and thousands of artists have used before me?” Now that would be creative.
Defending your “right” to use offensive tropes in character design (or writing, or whatever your creative endeavor of choice) isn’t “artistic integrity”. It’s laziness.
Oh, and while we’re talking about sex-repulsed people:
- It’s okay if you’re sex-repulsed because you have experienced sexual abuse or trauma in your past.
- It’s okay if you’re sex-repulsed because sex feels painful, uncomfortable or frightening to you.
- It’s okay if you’re sex-repulsed and there’s no “cause” for it, it’s just how you’ve always been.
- It’s okay if you feel sex-repulsed sometimes and not repulsed at other times, or if you’ve become more/less sex-repulsed over time.
- It’s okay to be afraid of sex.
- It’s okay to think that sex is disgusting.
- It’s okay to like reading/watching fictional sex but not want it in real life.
- It’s okay to be repulsed by some sexual things but not by other sexual things.
- None of the above things make your feelings weird, messed-up or unhealthy.
- You don’t need to “overcome” your dislike of sex. If you’re happier without sex, then that’s great, you don’t need to change.
- If you want to become more comfortable with sex, or if you think therapy will help you be happier with yourself, then that’s fine, too.
- If your partner wants you to do something sexual that you’re not comfortable with, then they’re the one in the wrong, and they need to stop. Your feelings and comfort are important, and you never owe sex to anyone.
- If your partner wants you to change, or to stop being sex-repulsed or asexual, then they are wrong. You deserve a partner who loves you the way you are, respects your feelings, and doesn’t ask you to change for them.
- You do not need to be sex-positive, or willing to have sex, in order to be a “healthy” or “normal” asexual person.
- Some sex-repulsed people aren’t asexual-spectrum. All of the above applies to them, too!
- Whatever your feelings about sex are, it is perfectly okay to feel the way you do, and there is nothing bad, abnormal or wrong about your feelings.
i would say this is ridiculous and impossible but i have no evidence against it
This is a fucking Simpsons gag come to life
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